Last week we talked about how being a military spouse is like a career. This week it’s all about sacrifice…and you should be proud of it!
You Are Strong For Doing This
We’ve all heard civilians say it: “I could never let my husband leave all the time like that.” Even though it can be very irritating to hear these things (as if we had a say in what Uncle Sam does with our spouse, right?), take it as a compliment.
You are a strong person for sacrificing your time with your spouse. Keep your head up and show the world that you are proud to be the brave and the strong. Your sacrifice is just as hard and just as great as your soldier’s. Though no one may be shaking your hand for it, own it! It is the truth.
The Safety Of This Country Stands On Your (and your soldier’s) Shoulders
Lets face it, our country is safe because of us (and God too, but that’s another post). If everyone decided to not let their soldiers join the military or go to war then we’d be slaughtered. There are far too many ruthless countries that despise us and want to take away our power. Who else is going to protect us besides ourselves???
Be proud that you have been left behind and sacrificed your time with your soldier. Without you our enemies would be right on top of us, tearing us down piece by piece.
Someone Needs To Defend Our Country
Stop blaming your soldier for being gone all the time.
Wives, I mean this even more for you because when you do this you are emasculating your husbands. Let your man be a man in the best way he knows how and begin to be grateful for the hard work he puts in so you and your children can be safe.
If your soldier is a workaholic then there is something else going on there and has nothing to do with the military. I suggest you get some counseling, but be kind about it and never blame him/her. It will only make your marriage more strained and push your soldier into his/her work even more.
This Life Is HARD, So Suck It up!
It drives me crazy when I hear other milspouses whining and crying about how awful their life is because their marriage sucks and it’s all the military’s fault. I admit that this life is HARD, but it’s not impossible!
So suck it up. Yes, it’s hard, but that’s life, not just the military. There are many things you can do to make things easier for yourself (such as keeping your attitude in check as is explained in this post) and the rest of your family. Stop making excuses to work on yourself and just do it. I know you can!
What do you think? Does this help or not help?